Multiple Sclerosis /Chronic Illness
Anger is all too often precieved as a negative emotion rather than a normal and useful one.
The emotion of anger is not negative; how it is recognized, recieved and managed is what needs to be given attention and space.
Understanding what is happening and why, is key to developing the skills in how to manage this valid emotion.
When you understand what is happening within you, and why it is happening, you will then have the compassion, appreciation and love for yourself that will become the anchors you need to get where you want to be.
Addiction is commonly viewed as a shamefull weakness and a choice that causes everyone pain. Although pain is involved, this position not only compounds the issue, it does not give space or value to what's really happening and the root cause.
Once this is discovered and appreciated, the healing and sustainable changes can begin to happen.
When a traumatic event happens, it is how we process the event that causes the trauma within.
This is why people will have different degrees and types of reactions to the same event.
The essence of trauma is when there is a disconnection. Our brains try to protect or defend us from the expierence that is too painful. However, because we naturally are designed to be connected and attached, the healing comes when we are able to reconnect within ourselves.
There's no doubt about it....being a parent can be challenging. There's also no denying that being a child can be equally difficult, confusing, scary and overwhelming too.
Although it's up to us to support and guide our kids, of all ages, sometimes, because of our own life experiences, we too need support, understanding and guidance.
It's not about blame, shame or guilt, but rather, simply having insightful understanding and appreciation for how the human brain works and what the primary fundamental, developmental and survival needs of humans are.
From this position, suddenly things make sense and being a parent not only becomes much easier, it also helps to facilitate and nurture the desired outcomes for both our child and ourselves.
Anxiety is our brain's reaction to what is perceived as a threat.
In order to stay safe in the world, our brains have an alarm system that moves us to caution whenever there is a potential danger or threat.
This could be on a conscious or subconscious level. But whenever there is something that could be subjectively perceived as a threat to our security, our internal alarm goes off, producing signals that lead to feelings of being unsafe.
Understanding what, and why, our brain is perceiving things as a danger, is key to reducing the triggers and managing our internal alarm system.
Living with MS, or any chronic illness, can be something that takes over every part of you, every part of your life, and the lives of those around you.
Understanding what is happening in your body, why it's happening, and how to manage or overcome it, can be transforming and life changing.
Human beings are naturally meant to be connected and attached. This is our primary instinctual need.
Because our brain's first survival need is to attach, to be valued, and not be rejected; when this is not happening, there is conflict within and conflict with others.
Resolving conflict starts with understanding this key component of human behaviour. That's when mediation and sustainable resolution can happen.
Life is a journey and one that requires a healthy connection with others and a healthy connection within ourselves.
Both of these can sometimes be difficult to achieve.
Everyone, at some point or another needs support, insight and guidance in ways that are personalized, non-biased,
compassionate and empathetic.
Without judgement or shame, to safely, be completely open and honest, with yourself and someone else, is a healthy choice that may take strength and courage but shows wisdom as well.